Los secretos de los hombres finalmente se exponen. Estos secretos nunca se han expresado por temor a represalias sociales y desprecio. Esta información fascinante y controvertida te deja empoderado y en el camino hacia el amor duradero. Las mujeres en relaciones exitosas y duraderas sin saberlo operan dentro de estos secretos. Responde preguntas, "¿por qué los hombres engañan?" y "¿cómo sé si realmente me ama?" Las respuestas pueden sorprender. D.M Keith es padre de dos hijas y ver el dolor que cambió la vida que ocurrió en una de sus vidas lo obligó a respirar el código del hombre y decirlo todo. Obtén "blindado" Protege tu corazón. Este libro cumple con los estándares de la sabiduría y las relaciones convencionales Algunos de los secretos pueden ser difíciles de tragar, pero te alegrarás de haberlo hecho.

The Woman's Shield

(SECRETS ABOUT MEN YOUR MOTHER NEVER KNEW ... AND YOUR FATHER WAS AFRAID TO TELL YOU)By D.M. Keith

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Copyright © 2010 D.M. Keith
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ISBN: 978-1-4520-4381-4

Contents

ABOUT THE BOOK........................................................................................vDEDICATION............................................................................................viACKNOWLEDGEMENTS......................................................................................viiPREFACE...............................................................................................ixINTRODUCTION..........................................................................................xviiChapter 1. SECRETS THAT LET YOU KNOW HE REALLY LOVES YOU..............................................1Chapter 2. SECRET ACTS OF MEN OFTEN MISTAKEN FOR LOVE.................................................15Chapter 3. SECRETS THAT LET YOU KNOW WHAT HE REALLY WANTS.............................................23Chapter 4. SECRETS OF MEN'S SEXUAL STIMULATION; COMMONLY KNOWN AS CHEATING............................41Chapter 5. SECRETS OF WHY MEN CHEAT...................................................................59Chapter 6. SECRETS OF WHY MEN LIE.....................................................................75Chapter 7. CONSEQUENCES FOR WOMEN IN STATUS QUO RELATIONSHIPS TODAY...................................93Chapter 8. SECRETS TO DEALING WITH CHEATING MEN.......................................................111Chapter 9. SECRETS TO KNOWING WHO HE REALLY IS........................................................129Chapter 10. "IT'S NOT A SECRET!" MEN AND THE DESTRUCTION CAUSED BY THEIR CHEATING.....................153

Chapter One

SECRETS THAT LET YOU KNOW HE REALLY LOVES YOU

ONCE A MAN HAS GIVEN YOU HIS TREASURE, A WOMAN CAN TAKE YOUR SPACE BUT SHE CAN NEVER TAKE YOUR PLACE.

There is a 1000 percent sure way for a woman to know that a man loves her and no one else. She must be very observant of him from the beginning of the relationship. Every waking moment for the next few months she must pay close attention to him. Every man has a need to be territorial and to protect whatever's in it. He carves out that territory and fills it with various items, assigning value to them during the collection process. There is always one item that he values more than the others. It could be an abstract or tangible item and he'll protect it with his life. He'll go to great lengths to protect it, like the Ming Dynasty's building of the Great Wall to protect Chinese citizens from invaders; except he will be the Great Wall, the first line in defense of the item.

A man is a social animal and needs companionship. Mother Nature created him this way. He does not want to be alone and will be selective when choosing that special someone. Because of the one item he must protect, he must feel the woman can be an extension of him. He knows when he makes his selection, she will be too close to him to protect that item from her. She will be a special part of him and must be able to protect his item as well as he can. When he chooses her, he is willing to share the item with her. He'll meet different women but only one will get to share the item with him.

The item is his treasure and he will not allow every woman he meets to have access to it. Once a man gives a woman access to his treasure, no other woman will ever get close to it. Another woman may fill her space but she will never take her place.

When a woman meets a man she must try to find out what he treasures. If she's attentive and aware of his actions, she'll find out what's most important to him. Every man has something that he will kill for, something he cannot live without. That something is what defines him and gives him a reason to live. It is his prize possession, and he will not share it with anyone but a woman he trusts.

If a woman can determine what that one thing is and see that the man is sharing it or entrusting it to her care, then he loves her. If a woman knows what he treasures most in life and he doesn't share it with her, then he doesn't love her and she should run as far away from him as possible. She'll only be wasting her time with him.

It'll take no longer than two to three months for the man to decide if a woman is worthy of taking care of his treasure. If a woman isn't entrusted with his treasure after that time, she will never be selected as the one he trusts. She will only be his other woman.

Once he selects the woman who can protect his treasure, he will continue to pursue other women because of his need to have varying sexual stimulus. The woman who has his treasure has nothing to fear from him. He will not leave her, unless she cannot deal with his other sexual conquests. If she does leave him because of his sexual pursuits she must remember the next man she meets has the same behavior. There is no guarantee the next man will entrust her with his treasure. She may end up being just the other woman.

There are a number of different things a woman should look for when trying to figure out what her man treasures. Each man she meets will treasure something different. There are, however, types of men who will possibly treasure the same things. The following are some common things men treasure; the list, however, is extensive and not limited to these only. The treasures of men are developed over varying time periods.

HIS SPORT

Male athletes are one type of man who treasure the same things. Not all, just the good ones; those who get to play or start in each game. A man who is a second or third-string player will more likely treasure something other than the sport he's playing.

Most male athletes treasure their sport and they want a woman to share that sport with them. She doesn't need to know how to play the sport, only show an interest in it. The athlete will want her to understand the rules so she'll understand him when he's talking about his sport.

If a woman is only interested in an athlete because she finds him attractive, she'll not be dating him very long. She must have an interest in the sport. If she's dating him because she thinks he's making a lot of money, she'll be traded for someone who shows an interest in his sport. She may, however, get some of his money until he finds a replacement.

The athlete wants his woman to be at each game he plays and to sit where he can see her as he performs. He wants her to get as excited about the game as he gets. He wants to see her show emotion for the game as it's being played. If she does, she will get all his attention and money. She will get access to his treasure and the next step will probably be marriage.

HIS FAMILY

If a man's family is his treasure, he'll keep them at arm's length from a woman he just met. He'll have a close relationship with all his family members and put them before anyone and anything else. If his world is full of misery and despair, his family will be his sea of tranquility. His family will be where he goes to find his strength. Any woman thought of as possibly bringing harm or dissension into it will not be admitted. He will protect it from possible intruders and enemies of the state.

If he isn't serious about a woman he's dating, she'll never meet his family and they'll always come before her. She will only be his sex partner or mistress. He may treat her nice and be very kind to her. He may emotionally support her and date her on a consistent basis. She can be happy in the relationship and fall totally in love with him. However, he will not be in love with her. When a man's family is his treasure, he displays love of a woman when he determines she's good enough to meet them.

As children, we're all brought up in different types of households instilling different values. We grow up and interact with each other in different aspects of life; it can be at work or volunteering for some charitable organization. We become attracted to one another and attempt to formulate a relationship. Sometimes, however, our values from home collide and we just don't see eye-to-eye. It's normally the end of a possible relationship and we start over, trying to find that special someone.

A man who holds his family in high esteem is responsible for being selective when deciding who to bring into it. When he's dating a woman, he's watching to see how she treats her own family. Most important to him will be how she honors her parents. Does she have respect for her siblings? Is she kind and caring to her family members? Will she go that extra mile to assist them if they should need her help? Does she put them before everything else, except him, of course? These values cannot be faked by a woman because he'll spend a considerable amount of time with her to make sure they're real. If she passes the tests, she'll be permitted access into his family.

Once she gets a chance to interact with them, he'll expect her to do the same for them as she does for her own. He expects her to keep them safe the same as he does. Besides, she's selected as that special part of him, his clone that protects and treasures his family. Marriage will most likely be the next step because she will be the "one". All others will be delivery devices; used for a thrill.

HIS HOME OR APARTMENT

There are some men who treasure where they live. It is the place where he can be himself, get his strength and close out the world. His home defines him and he'll feel safe there. It will not be used as a bachelor pad where he brings many women for sex. He wouldn't dare defile it in such a way. It would take on a lesser meaning to him if he did. He'll date women, but sleep with them at their homes. His home is only for that special someone. If a woman discovers a man's home is his treasure and doesn't get an invitation to visit, she knows she's not the one.

He will treat his home like royalty. He will furnish it with fine furnishings from exotic places, if he can afford it. If he cannot afford such luxuries, he'll treat the furnishings he has as luxury items. If his home is his treasure, it will be well-maintained and kept up. A woman may find him spending considerable time performing yard work and/or minor repairs. The majority of his time will be spent there and only select guests will be invited for visits.

As he meets and dates women, he'll be keen in noticing how they keep their own homes. He'll be looking for the woman who values her home like he does. If he does yard work he'll watch to see if she enjoys working in her yard or garden. He'll want a woman who enjoys performing maintenance.

If it's an apartment that he treasures, he'll look for a woman who can maintain it the same way he does as well. You'll notice he keeps it neat and clean, no matter the time of day you may visit. He'll most likely keep his bed made, which can be difficult for most men. But home is this man's treasure and he'll be different about it than most men. This man, too, will not have women going in-and-out as if it were a bar room with swinging doors. He will respect his place and choose a woman who will do the same. He will most likely do his courting at her home instead of his apartment.

He will not share the key to his apartment with a woman until he's assured she deserves to have it. Once he's picked that special woman, she'll have permission and can come and go into his apartment the same as he does. This man will be close to asking her for marriage. He will feel complete with her and believe he will not find a better woman.

HIS CAR/BOAT/AIRCRAFT

A woman will be able to easily detect if the man treasures his car, boat, or aircraft. It consumes all his time as he praises it with washing, waxing, and polishing. He'll keep it in immaculate condition. Women may be allowed to ride in it but not operate it; especially when he's not in it. Be prepared to help him with its maintenance because that's where you'll find him most of the time. He will enjoy your assistance and treat it like a date.

As they're dating, he'll notice how she treats her car. Is it always clean and neat? Does she keep maintenance records? Does she fill up her tank after it reaches half full? This is important to a man because all men teach their daughters never to allow the tank to go beyond half-full. This is their way of protecting their daughters from running out of gas, getting stranded, and having to take a ride from a stranger. If he sees a woman who runs her tank at or near empty, he knows either she didn't have a man in her life or there was one who didn't tell her how to take care of a car. Right away, he'll determine she's not a potential candidate and she'll not get access to his car.

Once a woman determines the item that is the man's treasure, show some interest in it. Buy him books about it. Take him to shows; if it's a car, then a car show; if it's a boat, a boat show, etc. Take some lessons on operation of the item. She may go as far as joining a club, specific to the item.

If he determines the woman takes good care of her car, he will latch on to her. He'll feel the two of them have something in common. She will have shown him she can care for and take care of the item just as well as he can. He will enjoy her because talking with her about the item will be like talking to himself. The woman may see him spending more time with her and less time with his men friends. When it comes to loving and protecting his treasure, there'll be no need to discuss it with his male friends - he has her now. She will have gained access to his treasure.

She will know when she wins his approval. He'll give her the keys and she'll be allowed to operate it without him. Her friends will be able to enjoy it just as his friends are allowed to. Why not? He sees her as his clone. What's good for him will be just as good for her. He really does see her as being that important part of him he's missing. He will feel complete having found the woman of his dreams.

HIS CHILDREN

When a man finds a woman he can entrust with the care of his treasure, he will have found a good thing and from that woman will be bestowed upon him many good days in his life. Some men treasure their children and some don't. You will know the ones who do. He will speak highly of them and prefer spending more time with them than his friends. You'll find him spending time with them at the playground and taking them to camp. The boys will have the finest toys. His girls will be allowed to make him up; including putting lipstick on him. He will drink their make-believe tea from their toy tea sets and eat their make-believe foods. He'll volunteer time coaching their sports team and you'll see him hovering around the pool as they take swim lessons. He'll be at the dentist and doctor's office and attend every parent-teacher conference. If he's on an out-of-town trip, he'll try to make it home for Halloween and will do the same for their birthdays. His money will be spent more on their care and less on himself. The majority of his time will be spent thinking about their care and preparing them for their future.

He'll be cautious of the environments he takes them into. He researches and selects the schools with the best learning environment. He selects the television shows he'd like them to watch and will block those he find not kid-friendly. He'll methodically pick out which of his friend's children he'll allow them to play with. He'll seek out the best foods and keep them on a strict diet. They will only be allowed to watch children's films with good kid content. His children will always be respectful and from their mouths you will always hear, "thank you" after receiving something from a stranger.

If a woman is involved with this type of man and he's married, she probably won't be allowed to be around his children. His children are his treasure and the wife will have that. The woman, who could be his mistress, will only be with him for sex. She doesn't have a chance in hell of being this guy's wife.

If the man is divorced or separated from the mother of his children, and there is no chance for reconciliation, it will be of the utmost importance to find a woman who will care for his children as he does. He may date many women in this quest. The women will not meet his children until they can meet his approval. He is a caring father and sometimes may be seen as over-protective. As he is dating prospective women, he is observing how they treat their children. He's not interested in a woman who's always throwing parties at her home. That will not be the kind of environment he wants for his children. If she's drinking, cursing, or doping, he'll discredit her as a potential partner. If she dresses sexy as though to look like a whore or tramp when she's in public, she'll not become a candidate for him, especially if he has daughters.

The woman he selects must fit a mother and respectable wife image. He must feel proud to introduce her as he would the mother of the children. She must carry herself in a respectable manner and have respect from her peers. He would enjoy her being involved in the community, working with some charitable organization. This tells him that she cares about the community his children are growing up in. Because she cares, he knows she's always trying to make the community a better place to live. He'd like to see her project a mother image by showing admiration of other children. It could be the act of reading stories to his or her friend's children. Her manners must be impeccable as she joins him on outings to meet unknown guests at a public event. He'd like her to present herself at these events in an intelligent and ladylike fashion. Lastly, she must show that she is responsive to his and his children's needs. She must show she's caring enough to cater to the children when they are in need of parental support. She must display concern for their educational needs and general welfare. He will enjoy her buying gifts for the children that highlight their educational development, as well as the general development of their growing needs.

When the man meets this woman, he will be totally satisfied with her. She will be the "one". He may break off other relationships with other women because he and this woman will have their work cut-out for them. It will be imperative for him to get this women involved with the children. His free time will be spent planning and actually going places with her and the children. Eventually, after she has met his approval, she will be allowed to take the children on outings and participate in other areas of their lives. If a woman can become the "one" for a man whose children are his treasure, she will be in a good position to say the word "marriage" to him with almost a guaranteed "yes", for he knows he will not find anyone better to take care of his treasure. He will not let her get away by responding "no" to her question.

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