How to Stop Telling Your Kids to CALM DOWN: (and why it doesn't work anyway)

Why don't your kids calm down when you tell them to CALM DOWN!?

Why do your kids become angrier when you tell them to pull yourself together? Why do your kids run faster when you tell them to stop running?

Ali Fanshawe has been on a journey to better understand and parent her two adopted kids with additional needs. Her work has led to a realisation that you have ‘core scripts’ learnt during your childhood, that are embedded in the day-to-day language you use when you parent your kids.

But does this language work with kids who have additional or special needs or who are more sensitive than their peers and taking longer to develop their emotional maturity? Do these phrases help kids or their grown-ups calm down and better manage those big, fizzy moments that can de-rail a whole day at home or school?

After years of trying different strategies, Ali developed a transformative new parenting language. This book reveals the do's and don'ts of learning a new, therapeutic way of communicating and interacting with your fizzy kids. Her sane and practical advice combined with personal experience, will help you develop a new way of speaking to your kids, and might just be the key you are looking for to unlock a radical change in your family dynamics and relationship with your kids.