The Sex & Intimacy Repair Kit: How to Enhance Communication and Create a Lifetime of Passionate Intimacy

If you feel like you’ve become roommates instead of lovers…

If sex feels like another chore—or has disappeared altogether…

If you miss the passion, the laughter, the ease you once had…

This book is for you.

The Sex and Intimacy Repair Kit is not just another relationship book. It’s a hands-on, heart-opening guide to help couples repair emotional disconnection, reignite sexual desire, and create the kind of deeply satisfying partnership you both crave. Xanet Pailet’s first book, Living the Orgasmic Life, has become a #1 bestseller and is regarded as a classic in the category of relationships, love, and intimacy. 

What makes it different?

You won’t just read about what to do—you’ll feel like you’re sitting in a real coaching session. Throughout the book, you’ll step into intimate, behind-the-scenes moments with real couples—complete with guided exercises, actual dialogue, and the kinds of compassionate, no-BS insights you’d hear if you were working with Xanet one-on-one.

Inside, you’ll discover:

• How to talk about sex and feelings without shutting down or blowing up
•  Practical tools to repair trust and reconnect after years of distance or pain
• A new paradigm for sex that centers on mutual pleasure—not performance
• Erotic style frameworks to understand what really turns each of you on
• Simple, powerful intimacy rituals to bring joy and sensuality back into your daily life

This book isn’t about fixing your relationship. It’s about transforming it—from the inside out.

Based upon her two decades of working in couples therapy, specializing in couples with issues and problems in intimacy, Xanet has composed a relationship repair kit for all couples.  New Relationship Energy occurs within the first five years with flourishing romance and intimacy. After that time, external stresses of life, including caretaking, work, career, and children, cause communication breakdowns. Because of this preoccupied energy, you can no longer be committed to the relationship, which can lead to fights and a lack of communication. This causes one of the partners to push for communication, which can lead to unequal communication and arguments, further leading to breakdowns. Unfortunately, these issues lead to the breakup of relationships. Xanet has identified eight kinds of breakdowns for the couple to then process their issues and go into a mature relationship energy, which has led to a more fulfilling relationship as they know a lot more after working through the issues. Some couples struggle with commitment after couples therapy, including within intimacy. This book will engage couples in long-term work for couples to engage and renew intimate relationships. Xanet’s tried and true methods have allowed couples to avoid divorce, which, unfortunately, 50% of married couples in the United States undergo. 

Xanet Pailet is a former New York City health care lawyer who lived in a sexless marriage for over two decades. After experiencing her sexual healing and awakening in 2011, she transitioned her career into a full-time sex and intimacy coach, working with individuals and couples to empower them around their sexuality and strengthen relationship and intimacy skills. Xanet has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Brides, Sex with Emily, and SheKnows, and lives in Asheville, North Carolina. 

Marques Ogden is a former NFL player who is now an inspirational keynote speaker. He's also the founder and CEO of Ogden Ventures LLC, three-time best-selling author, business coach and consultant and the podcast host of Get Authentic With Marques Ogden; although his journey didn't come easy or without unrelenting adversity. After retiring from football, Marques pursued a career in construction and contracting. At 27, he founded a construction company with fast growth but eventually went bankrupt, losing almost two million dollars on one project in 90 days. He pulled himself together during his darkest hours and got a part-time job as a custodian. Marques rose to the top again with hard work and determination, using his struggles as inspiration to blaze his own trail forward. Now, he shares his powerful story to help others learn how to fail forward and achieve success in their lives. Marques' story and insights as a thought leader have been featured in top publications such as USA Today, Forbes, News Nation, Cheddar News and Authority Magazine. As a speaker, he's landed jobs with over 85 Fortune 500 companies and over 20 Fortune 100 companies like Amazon, Goldman Sachs, Intel, and JPMorgan Chase. Marques lives in Northern California.