Male Stripper

She stripped everything from him except his soulBy Ben Stable

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Copyright © 2009 Ben Stable
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ISBN: 978-1-4389-9044-6

Chapter One

What Is a Male Stripper?

To begin with there is no definition in the Webster's for a woman who is a "male stripper." Don't worry I have one to place there. This is my very own definition which comes from my life's experience.

I assure you at first that she may seem to be sexy, but in the end you will agree with me that she is not and very far from being considered a woman at all. You would probably say she is a member of Satan's family, especially when you read this book, at least I hope so.

A male stripper is a woman who has been deeply hurt by a man or men in her life. It could have been a boy that hurt her, but for her own reasons is where she puts the blame for her hurt on men. Usually someone very close to her is to blame for her hurt, and no, it doesn't have to have been sexual at all.

It could have been a time in her life when she expected great things from someone, but the reciprocation just didn't happen quite the way she expected. She considered the experience a failure. Maybe this was because the male whom she admired failed her, or she herself had expectations that were simply too high. God only knows. Nevertheless this kind of woman has become a nightmare to any man who crosses her path.

Because of her experiences, her emotions are mixed and she begins her adult life in a state of mind that of which she is not even aware. She is always willing to give her womanly best, and she does, until he the male does something that triggers the hurt she once knew, the hurt that she unknowingly placed deep in her mind with every intention to keep it locked there for all time.

These are reasons for her choice to harbor pain and her hate for all men. Even her father can fall into this world she has created for herself. Perhaps she was rejected because she didn't know what part to play involving the opposite sex. Maybe she failed some small expectation, such as a simple kiss not performed satisfactory, or she was afraid her touch might not please her counterpart, and he responded negatively and hurtfully. Perhaps she was a late bloomer or a female nerd; I don't know all the answers, but my experiences are the ones I can share.

When a woman experiences a broken heart, grave disappointment, or deep regrets from failed dates in her past, she develops emotional scars. She finds herself in embarrassing or compromising situations, being humiliated once too often, and she ends up losing her pride. Sometimes herself esteem is seriously damaged. She is pushed into a world of emotional pain so deep, she is not willing to let go of her pain. She decides that from that point on, she will never feel like this again. Her new motto: make him pay. Instead of seeking help and talking with others she handles her sadness all by herself. But the problem is that no one knows this woman exists but herself. She is not going to let anyone know she feels this way. Because my woman's standards were too high, I had a bad experience and needed help.

In other words, this woman, the "male stripper," is a woman who harbors pain and rejection towards the male gender so intently that when it is all said and done, she will have lived a lifetime and missing out on life.

Consider the reasons a woman could become like this. A broken heart, unreported or untreated rape, verbal or physical abuse, public humiliation and embarrassment, being or feeling disgraced around other women, or being subjected to public shame for no reason. Usually these things are done by some uncaring, idiot male, someone who has a mind of an animal. I say this, because any man that treats a woman less than just that, a woman, has a serious problem with his manhood. He is in need of mental and emotional care himself. But that's the topic for the next book, so I had better leave that alone. I assure you I will stick with the topic at hand.

As a result of these sour and demonic choices she has made, this is what happens. She enters a place of hiding, a place of darkness, where she can feel safe and in control. In her mind, she has found a place of solace. In that place, she can think of ways to get even and administer revenge. All the while she is being deceived by the archenemy of mankind, the devil himself. She doesn't know it, but she is falling very deep into his clutches without a safety net. Before it's all said and done, she finds that she really is a good person and that she means well, but for some reason, she just can't get a grip on herself. Her problem is that she made a choice, and the way she did it left no provision for escape. And now, just like the devil, she is doomed because of her choice. We all know that the devil can never, ever change. But because of mercy and God's grace, she will always have one more choice to consider. She can forgive the one who made her feel like she feels, and at the same time forgive herself.

But instead of letting love rule, she becomes uninterested in love. She tried love, or so she thinks. I myself don't think that this kind of woman gave love a competing chance. Anyhow her goal now is to make a trophy of whomever she can; she doesn't even know who he will be. But give her time; she'll come up with a victim. Her game plan is to find him and by any means necessary remove from him all that makes him, who he is, a man. At all cost, she wants to make at least one man feel what she feels; it doesn't matter that the guy didn't do anything to her. She doesn't care, men. You can stop asking, "What did I do?" You could have been a good man all your life, but she didn't select you because of who you are to people or your position or the money you have. You just happened to be in the right place at the wrong time, and now you are here reading this book. Whether you're curious or just looking to help yourself or someone else, this book is for you.

She latches on to her chosen victim and begins the long arduous process of dismantling her catch. The mission is to destroy as much of this man as fast as possible before he realizes what has happened to him. At some point during this unknown torture to his manhood, he will begin to suspect that something is not right, but what will he think? A man doesn't have the instinct a woman has, but I can assure you, ladies, that we have enough to know when we are about to be snared into some mess. Our problem is that like most animals being hunted, by the time we realize what is about to happen it is too late.

This woman, the male stripper, is so confident about her mission. And you know she just knows that no one suspects her, that she overlooks the fact that a man is a survivor, and by the design of God himself, he will figure out a way to survive it. But sometimes the choices he makes are not the best choices. Just like a trapped animal, the man, the male species when trapped, will do whatever is necessary at that time to gain his freedom from this snare. He will become verbal when his manhood is threatened, angry, disoriented, you name it. He could get into trouble with the law if this man were not allowed to escape.

After a while, the man will look for causes that place the fault on him. He'll look at himself and try to change, but such changes are not needed. She got him thinking he has to do this, but he doesn't. His problem is that he doesn't know that he has been trapped by a hunter, the male stripper. But unlike the hunter, when she catches him, she doesn't want to kill him. No, she wants to strip him of his manhood, and until this is accomplished, she has no intention of letting him out of her clutches. She has to remove everything from him that makes him a man. The good part for her is, the more of a man he is, the greater the challenge of dismantling him.

Her mission is to destroy his credibility, make him look bad. She will even make stuff happen to force him to move out without him knowing it was her doing. Men, I tell you these women are smooth and crafty. For example, you are married, but you never had any extramarital affairs, sex outside of marriage. What will she do? She will stop giving him any affection or sexual attention. Now you just have to be a good boy and not sin.

She has to bring him down at all cost. How about this: she will try and premeditate moves like a chess player that she suspects you will follow. Does this sound familiar? She starts an argument, and somehow she becomes violent and physical, and it doesn't make sense. I'll tell you what you had better not do: don't hit her! That is what she wants you to do. And yes, this tactic has worked a many a times for women. You can bet I call this control.

Now men, she doesn't want to get hurt; she just wants you to get hurt. Remember that in her mind, she has been hurt enough, and now it's your turn. She will play with your mind. She'll try things to see what makes you tick or what pushes your buttons. She will study your emotions and your feelings, all the while setting you up for her ultimate day of vengeance. She has to study your personality and your character; she needs to know your likes and dislikes. These are the tools she will use to rip you apart. Even your wants and desires will be used to bring you down. She will pretend to work with you on those projects you have. She will be there for your desire to better yourself or to grow a business, or so she has you thinking. This is not her real objective. What she really wants is for you to trust her. She wants you to think that she is in your corner. She will pretend to be there for you, help support your desires and goals. She will have you thinking that she really cares, because she goes along with your ideas and helps you up the ladder of success. After all, you must know that she really cares for you, right? She cares for you like a fisherman with his net across the water. Do you think his intention is to catch the fish and release them like they do on television? Brother, this isn't television; this crap is for real.

She has to break you, disorient your mind, and fill your spirit with despair and guilt. She needs to tear down your self-esteem and make you think you have problems with yourself that you never knew you had. It would be laughable if it weren't so tragic: this kind of woman is good at what she does, believe me. She will drive you like a wild animal into submission until you begin to believe every word she says, all in the name of "Honey, I love you." She always reminds you: "If you love me you will believe me. I'm not trying to hurt you baby." All the time she is more than trying to hurt you; she is working on destroying the very fabric of what you stand for, that is, your manhood.

Her pain and growing hatred for the position man holds drives her deeper on her mission. She rides the vehicle of love, encouraging him that she is his friend and confidant. She'll even use the name of God, phony faith, and even go to church. Man, you would be surprised at how many of these women are in the church today. And yes, from my experience they know the Bible backwards and forwards. I'm sure they are in places other than the church. Some of you can say you know these women exist elsewhere. I can only write on the experience I have.

For now she must place him in her control. She has to move along; he's not going to be easy for ever. You know men and women are basically looking for the same thing-love. For the unsuspecting victim, whether it be a man or a woman, love can be used in a morbid manner to snare just about anybody. How many times have men got into the pants of unsuspecting women by saying, "I love you"? They're nothing but liars. These are some of the reasons why I had to write this book, because of all the stupid nonsense men have used on women. And the mind games women have used on men.

These women will use anything to get the man into their clutches. Does this sound familiar? Men used to do this all the time. Remember back in the day? The difference then and now is that back then women had to stay in their place or they got in trouble. Now after the bra-burning revolution, women are outspoken and not afraid of men. Who said they were supposed to be afraid of men anyway?

Men, we have to be more thoughtful of our women, our ladies. We all need to start over and treat each other like we want to be treated. I know, after all, that because of what I went through, I will always love and cherish my wife. When it happens to you, you don't like it.

I'd like to add this final note about the male strippers' description. Watch how she acts around her children. They mean the world to her. Pay attention to how they treat her and how they respond to you. You might think your kids don't like you as much as they do their mom. This doesn't have to be. You might not know it, but it's up to the mother to create balance in the home. This is not the man's job. So if your children don't have the positive feelings for you that you think they should, look at the mother. You might find you're in this book too. Both mother and father should experience the same parental love from your children. Don't be guilty of not giving to your children the same love you're looking for from them.

Chapter Two

Women come from little girls; we all know that. We can remember playmates we had growing up. Some we will never forget. In fact a few of us married that little girl when we grew up. Life seemed so simple then-the memories of good times and family gatherings, holidays, birthdays; you name it. Most of us can recall these memories from the past, some good and some bad. The point I want to make is that we don't have access to everyone's past. When we get into a relationship, we get what the other party wants us to get, and she hides whatever she doesn't want us to know. That's all good. As my wife tells me, the past is the past for a reason, let it stay there. My point is that when we discover these male strippers, they don't know how to leave the past in the past. She brought it with her; she is in my life, and you are reading this book to find the answer that's been hidden for so long. I hope that after reading this book, you will find your answer.

Are you with me? Look back. She is there; she is still in her past and won't let it go. This is where the male stripper comes from. She came from the dark island of hurt and pain.

All women don't have the same needs, but all women need the same thing, love. When love is missing in a woman's life is like lying on a hospital bed having hard time breathing. You know the oxygen is right there, but you can't get your hands on any. For a little girl or a young lady inexperienced in life and adulthood, she encounters life's bitter lessons of love, the simple, even harmless event, never noticed by people around her. That causes her to fall into the clutches of Satan, where she begins her apprenticeship to eventually become a male stripper.

So much stupid stuff has happened to us in our little, fragile lives that it is sometimes all we can do to keep trying. But growing evil isn't a good choice. What happens to these women and at what time in their lives did this happen? The light that once was very bright with a good and prosperous future began to take a back seat to her pain. Darkness takes over her life, what she once knew as love, or what she thought it should have been, is now replaced with confusion.

Her journey begins with a memory of sadness and disappointment, because some man has hurt her heart. She gave love, but she did not get what she expected in return. Yes, it can be sexual abuse, but most times these women did not have a clue of what to expect from males. Perhaps her experience is a result of a male not knowing how to behave around a female. The male stripper had been in a meaningful relationship with a male, but things did not go the way she expected. This is not to say someone was not at fault; sometimes people just don't know, and a lack of knowledge opens the door of confusion. They did not know what they were doing, putting their hearts out there, getting hurt.

Where did she get hurt? What day was it? What time, what season? No one knows this answer. She may not have the answer herself. The only thing she knows for sure is that she got hurt, and somebody is going to pay.

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