A Christian Guide to Preventing and Ending Men's Affairs (Without Being Patient or Submissive)

Love and Restoration Are Things We Do—Not Things We Wait For

Can you just be patient and submissive while your husband is cheating on you? Well, good news! You can be a faithful Christian without having to just be patient. God calls us to action in mending relationships and never encourages us to just wait for Him to do it for us.

With this book, you will learn the boundaries and behaviors Christians need to not only prevent affairs, but to end them as well—while promoting their marriage.

Many Christian women are told by clergy that they need to be patient and submissive while their husbands are having an affair. Christian counselors often teach that husbands have affairs because their needs are not met well enough by their wives. This teaching not only blames the wrong person, it leads to the wrong action of trying to please unfaithful husbands. As a result, husbands end up having their cake and eating it, too, and do not give up their affairs.

Secular counselors, on the other hand, overly emphasize assertiveness without any loving connection or rebuilding. The Christian model is to be loving, while also having good boundaries. That is always the winning combination, whether you are single or married, and for all situations.

In this book, you will learn:

• The real reason men cheat on women

• How to date before marriage in a way that discourages cheating

• How to have a marriage script that promotes faithfulness

• How to make your husband feel loved and fear losing you

• How to deal with the biggest threats to your marriage

• How to avoid marriage mistakes that contribute to affairs

• Five choices you have when you discover an affair

• Word-for-word how to confront your husband about his affair

• How to use separation as an intervention for a husband who won’t end his affair

• How to connect with your husband during his affair

  Plus

• How to rebuild your marriage after his affair is over

Dr. Ito ("Coach Jack") is a graduate of Fuller Theological Seminary. He is an accomplished Christian psychologist and author currently in his 27th year as a psychologist and marriage coach. Dr. Ito has helped thousands of men and women to reconcile and restore love in their marriage. His coaching and materials can be accessed at coachjackito.com.