What if being “nice” is costing you more than you realize?
You say yes when you want to say no.
You replay conversations, wondering if you upset someone.
You feel responsible for other people’s moods.
You overexplain your boundaries.
And when you finally choose yourself, guilt makes you question whether you were wrong.
You may call it kindness.
But sometimes, kindness has quietly become self-abandonment.
WHEN BEING NICE COSTS YOU is a compassionate, practical guide for anyone who is tired of overgiving, seeking approval, avoiding disappointment, and feeling guilty for having needs of their own.
Rather than teaching you to become colder, tougher, or less caring, Miya Kuan explores a different possibility:
You can be kind without disappearing.
Through relatable situations, practical reflection exercises, boundary scripts, and the signature Kindness / Fear Test, you’ll learn how to recognize when generosity is coming from genuine choice—and when it is being driven by fear of rejection, conflict, guilt, or disapproval.
Inside, you’ll explore how to:
This is not a book about caring less.
It is about learning to care without abandoning yourself.
Because a healthy relationship should have room for two people—and one of them is you.
The Unlearning Series · Book Two
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Paperback. Condición: new. Paperback. You're always there for everyone else. But when was the last time you were there for yourself?You say yes when you want to say no.You apologise even when you haven't done anything wrong.You worry about disappointing people, replay their reactions, and feel guilty whenever you choose your own needs.From the outside, it may look like kindness.But somewhere along the way, being "nice" can become a habit of abandoning yourself.When Being Nice Costs You is a practical guide for anyone who is tired of overgiving, seeking approval, avoiding conflict, and carrying responsibility for everyone else's feelings.This isn't a book about becoming colder, selfish, or uncaring.It's about learning that you can be a kind person without constantly sacrificing yourself to prove it.Inside, you'll discover how to: - Recognise the difference between genuine kindness and people-pleasing- Understand why saying no can trigger guilt and anxiety- Catch the automatic "yes" before it leaves your mouth- Stop measuring your worth through other people's approval- Separate your responsibilities from other people's emotions- Set boundaries without becoming harsh or distant- Stop overexplaining every decision you make- Handle disappointment without immediately trying to fix it- Make choices based on what you actually want-not only what keeps everyone else happy- Build self-trust through small acts of self-loyaltyThrough relatable everyday situations and practical tools such as The Automatic Yes, The Guilt Check, The Boundary Translator, The Approval Pause, Responsibility Check, and The Self-Loyalty Question, you'll begin to recognise the patterns that quietly keep you stuck.Because someone being disappointed doesn't automatically mean you've done something wrong.Someone disagreeing with your boundary doesn't make the boundary unfair.And choosing yourself doesn't mean you've stopped caring about everyone else.Kindness isn't the problem. Losing yourself in order to keep everyone else comfortable is.When Being Nice Costs You is Book Two of The Unlearning Series-a practical self-growth collection about recognising the patterns you've carried for years, understanding why they exist, and learning that you are allowed to choose differently.Set boundaries. Let go of guilt. Choose yourself-without losing the kindness that makes you who you are. This item is printed on demand. Shipping may be from multiple locations in the US or from the UK, depending on stock availability. Nº de ref. del artículo: 9798171380960
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Taschenbuch. Condición: Neu. Neuware - What if being 'nice' is costing you more than you realize You say yes when you want to say no.You replay conversations, wondering if you upset someone.You feel responsible for other people's moods.You overexplain your boundaries.And when you finally choose yourself, guilt makes you question whether you were wrong.You may call it kindness.But sometimes, kindness has quietly become self-abandonment.WHEN BEING NICE COSTS YOU is a compassionate, practical guide for anyone who is tired of overgiving, seeking approval, avoiding disappointment, and feeling guilty for having needs of their own.Rather than teaching you to become colder, tougher, or less caring, Miya Kuan explores a different possibility: You can be kind without disappearing.Through relatable situations, practical reflection exercises, boundary scripts, and the signature Kindness / Fear Test, you'll learn how to recognize when generosity is coming from genuine choice-and when it is being driven by fear of rejection, conflict, guilt, or disapproval.Inside, you'll explore how to: - Stop giving an automatic yes before considering what you actually want- Recognize the hidden beliefs behind people-pleasing- Separate other people's emotions from your responsibility- Stop depending on approval to feel secure in your choices- Understand the difference between healthy guilt and old-pattern guilt- Set clear boundaries without becoming cold or unnecessarily harsh- Let people be disappointed without immediately trying to fix it- Replace overexplaining with calm, honest communication- Build self-trust through small everyday choices- Redefine kindness so that you are included in it tooThis is not a book about caring less.It is about learning to care without abandoning yourself.Because a healthy relationship should have room for two people-and one of them is you.The Unlearning Series - Book Two. Nº de ref. del artículo: 9798171380960
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Paperback. Condición: new. Paperback. You're always there for everyone else. But when was the last time you were there for yourself?You say yes when you want to say no.You apologise even when you haven't done anything wrong.You worry about disappointing people, replay their reactions, and feel guilty whenever you choose your own needs.From the outside, it may look like kindness.But somewhere along the way, being "nice" can become a habit of abandoning yourself.When Being Nice Costs You is a practical guide for anyone who is tired of overgiving, seeking approval, avoiding conflict, and carrying responsibility for everyone else's feelings.This isn't a book about becoming colder, selfish, or uncaring.It's about learning that you can be a kind person without constantly sacrificing yourself to prove it.Inside, you'll discover how to: - Recognise the difference between genuine kindness and people-pleasing- Understand why saying no can trigger guilt and anxiety- Catch the automatic "yes" before it leaves your mouth- Stop measuring your worth through other people's approval- Separate your responsibilities from other people's emotions- Set boundaries without becoming harsh or distant- Stop overexplaining every decision you make- Handle disappointment without immediately trying to fix it- Make choices based on what you actually want-not only what keeps everyone else happy- Build self-trust through small acts of self-loyaltyThrough relatable everyday situations and practical tools such as The Automatic Yes, The Guilt Check, The Boundary Translator, The Approval Pause, Responsibility Check, and The Self-Loyalty Question, you'll begin to recognise the patterns that quietly keep you stuck.Because someone being disappointed doesn't automatically mean you've done something wrong.Someone disagreeing with your boundary doesn't make the boundary unfair.And choosing yourself doesn't mean you've stopped caring about everyone else.Kindness isn't the problem. Losing yourself in order to keep everyone else comfortable is.When Being Nice Costs You is Book Two of The Unlearning Series-a practical self-growth collection about recognising the patterns you've carried for years, understanding why they exist, and learning that you are allowed to choose differently.Set boundaries. Let go of guilt. Choose yourself-without losing the kindness that makes you who you are. This item is printed on demand. Shipping may be from our UK warehouse or from our Australian or US warehouses, depending on stock availability. Nº de ref. del artículo: 9798171380960
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