You’ve explained. Reminded. Helped. Set consequences. Tried harder.
And the same problem keeps coming back.
What if the problem is real—but the place you are trying to change is wrong?
The Wrong Target is a practical parenting decision tool for the moments when familiar responses stop working. It does not ask you to uncover one hidden cause or apply another universal technique. It shows you how to identify the smallest place where change is most likely to matter—and test that judgment without turning family life into a permanent investigation.
Drawing on more than thirty years of study of developmental psychology and human adaptation, Julian Omes translates complex systems thinking into a clear four-step method that helps parents:
• separate visible behavior from what may actually need to change;
• keep several plausible explanations open without overanalyzing;
• choose one bounded target and one action that reaches it;
• run a small test and let the result correct the next decision;
• recognize when the useful target is a skill, a transition, an environment, a relationship, a boundary—or a deliberate choice.
This is not a book about parenting harder. It is about aiming better.
For parents of children and teenagers who keep thinking: I am already doing more. Why is nothing changing?
Before you change your child, make sure you are working on the right thing.
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Paperback. Condición: new. Paperback. You've explained. Reminded. Helped. Set consequences. Tried harder.And the same problem keeps coming back.What if the problem is real-but the place you are trying to change is wrong?The Wrong Target is a practical parenting decision tool for the moments when familiar responses stop working. It does not ask you to uncover one hidden cause or apply another universal technique. It shows you how to identify the smallest place where change is most likely to matter-and test that judgment without turning family life into a permanent investigation.Drawing on more than thirty years of study of developmental psychology and human adaptation, Julian Omes translates complex systems thinking into a clear four-step method that helps parents: - separate visible behavior from what may actually need to change;- keep several plausible explanations open without overanalyzing;- choose one bounded target and one action that reaches it;- run a small test and let the result correct the next decision;- recognize when the useful target is a skill, a transition, an environment, a relationship, a boundary-or a deliberate choice.This is not a book about parenting harder. It is about aiming better.For parents of children and teenagers who keep thinking: I am already doing more. Why is nothing changing?Before you change your child, make sure you are working on the right thing. This item is printed on demand. Shipping may be from multiple locations in the US or from the UK, depending on stock availability. Nº de ref. del artículo: 9798170068678
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Taschenbuch. Condición: Neu. Neuware - You've explained. Reminded. Helped. Set consequences. Tried harder.And the same problem keeps coming back.What if the problem is real-but the place you are trying to change is wrong The Wrong Target is a practical parenting decision tool for the moments when familiar responses stop working. It does not ask you to uncover one hidden cause or apply another universal technique. It helps you choose one bounded place where the next parenting action can be tested-and let reality correct the decision before you add more pressure.The book uses a clear four-step method: 1. WHAT HAPPENED Describe the visible result without turning it into an explanation of the child.2. WHAT WOULD HAVE HAD TO BE DIFFERENT Keep two or three plausible possibilities open without overanalyzing.3. WHERE WILL I ACT Choose one target small enough to change-and small enough to be wrong.4. TEST THE TARGET. Change one thing that directly reaches it, watch one nearby result, and reopen the target if the pattern does not move.The useful target may be information, a cue, an available action, current load, cost or preference, the setup, the adult's contribution, or a deliberate choice. The answer is not assumed to be inside the child-or hidden beneath every behavior.The book includes The Wrong Target - Working Card, a compact Pocket Card, and a practical Target Atlas covering mornings, homework, screens, bedtime, aggression, truth, school avoidance, and teen freedom.This is not a book about parenting harder. It is about aiming better.For parents of children and teenagers who keep thinking: I am already doing more. Why is nothing changing Before you change your child, make sure you are working on the right thing. Nº de ref. del artículo: 9798170068678
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Paperback. Condición: new. Paperback. You've explained. Reminded. Helped. Set consequences. Tried harder.And the same problem keeps coming back.What if the problem is real-but the place you are trying to change is wrong?The Wrong Target is a practical parenting decision tool for the moments when familiar responses stop working. It does not ask you to uncover one hidden cause or apply another universal technique. It shows you how to identify the smallest place where change is most likely to matter-and test that judgment without turning family life into a permanent investigation.Drawing on more than thirty years of study of developmental psychology and human adaptation, Julian Omes translates complex systems thinking into a clear four-step method that helps parents: - separate visible behavior from what may actually need to change;- keep several plausible explanations open without overanalyzing;- choose one bounded target and one action that reaches it;- run a small test and let the result correct the next decision;- recognize when the useful target is a skill, a transition, an environment, a relationship, a boundary-or a deliberate choice.This is not a book about parenting harder. It is about aiming better.For parents of children and teenagers who keep thinking: I am already doing more. Why is nothing changing?Before you change your child, make sure you are working on the right thing. This item is printed on demand. Shipping may be from our UK warehouse or from our Australian or US warehouses, depending on stock availability. Nº de ref. del artículo: 9798170068678
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