I Am No Longer Myself Without You: How Men Love Women - Tapa dura

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Jonathan Rutherford teaches Media and Cultural Studies at the University of Middlesex. A former community worker and journalist, he contributes regularly to the Guardian and Cosmopolitan.

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AN ANATOMY OF LOVE

Jonathan Rutherford explores the enigmatic silence which surrounds men's love. When a man falls in love he surrenders his condition of solitude; he relinquishes his masquerade of self-sufficiency. He falls into a wordless void. He is moved beyond words. A new story of his life is waiting to begin; a recognition that 'I am no longer myself without you'.

Faced with such a prospect, men have been unsure how to respond to women – or, rather, how to respond to their need of women. Traditionally, they have reasserted their boundaries, recouped some of their solitude, restored order.

Weaving together examples from his own life, from films, social studies, literature and recent events, Jonathan Rutherford searches for a new emotional voice, a new way forward. 'I Am No Longer Myself Without You'
is a groundbreaking book, at once cultural commentary, moving memoir and psychological study – a modern anatomy of love.

Jonathan Rutherford lives in North London and teaches cultural studies at Middlesex University. He is the author of 'Men's Silences: Predicaments in Masculinity' and 'Forever England: Reflections on Race, Masculinity and Empire.' He is editor of 'Young Britain' (a collection of essays on young people), 'Identity,' and co-editor of 'Male Order: unwrapping Masculinity'

"In our love of women, a part of us seeks to recover our attachment to our mothers. In the men we love we seek the father we once idealised. In each case we love what has been lost to us. There is nothing to be gained in guilt, only acknowledging that to love ourselves we must love and be loved by another, and to love another we must be able to love ourselves. And last: men may struggle to love themselves and other men, be willing and able to love their mothers and fathers and children, but loving women is the hardest thing to do."