Nightmare in Hostage Hills - Tapa dura

Sadly, Christinas journey, and her childrens experience of being collateral damage, is not atypical. Kudos for her strength and bravery in putting her story out there as a cautionary tale for others. (Dr. Susan Weitzman, author, Not to People like Us: Hidden Abuse in Upscale Marriages). Christina Masks Nightmare is constructed around fragments from a life in agony as one woman attempts to escape abuse, retain her sanity, and regain the custody of three children the family court and her husband have taken from her. Its all herethe daily records over months, then years; the diary entries; the self-blame; the excuses; the shame; the absurdist dialogues with family therapists; marginalia from readings or lectures or religious texts; letters pleadings with judges and lawyers and evaluators; poems; letters to and from the children, real and imagined; the reports that put her claims of abuse in quotations; and so, so much more. These pieces are loosely joined by a narrative and an interior monologue that I sometimes found too much to bear. But then I realized I was scanning something akin to a Picasso painting, whose underlying truth lay not in what was on the page, not the fragments, but in the hope that put them out here, no more evident than in the endlessly reasonable letters Mask writes to intractable foes. Mask has cast her eye on what Yeats termed the broken, crumbling battlement of the self and lived to write it. As one director famously said about the sixty women and children crowded into her six-bedroom shelter, If they can manage this, they can manage anything. Christinas book gives us faith that she is right. (Evan Stark, PhD, MSW. The writer is professor emeritus at Rutgers University, and author of Coercive Control: How Men Entrap Women in Personal Life [Oxford, 2007]).

As a vibrant wife and mother of our 3 adorable children, we were blessed to have childhood years together where we sang and danced, laughed and played, prayed and praised Our Lord Jesus Christ many moments together, hugged, and kissed morning noon and night. School, homework, soccer, swimming, gymnastics, piano, friends, picnics, family reunions, making dinners, family movie nights we enjoyed together in our seemingly normal upscale, loving family all the while a trap was being laid for our destruction by my husband and father of our 3 children.

It is now over 13 years that my 3 children have been alienated from their mother and held hostage by their father. DV by Proxy and narcissistic abuse hurts.