Advice for the Dying (and Those Who Love Them): A Practical Perspective on Death - Tapa dura

Her essays unfold their subjects and stories with remarkable precision, allowing us, gradually, to see and feel for the people she describes. * New Yorker * An easy, chatty writer who never says anything the way you're expecting, which makes reading her a pleasure. * Boston Globe * [a] hard, clear-eyed look at death and dying * Dublin Review of Books * Sallie Tisdale's life experiences and down-to-earth wisdom takes readers beyond the paralysing dread of death and advances profound opportunities for intimacy, connection and completeness at life's end. -- Dr Michael Barbato, author of CARING FOR THE DYING Sallie Tisdale's elegantly understated new book pretends to be a user's guide when in fact it's a profound meditation. It also pretends to be about how to die. Actually, it's about how to live. -- David Shields, bestselling author of REALITY HUNGER This book on how to die is also a blessedly saccharine-free guide for how to live. * New York Times *

Award-winning writer and nurse Sallie Tisdale offers a lyrical, thought-provoking yet practical perspective on death and dying in this frank, direct and compassionate meditation on the inevitable. _______________________________________ From the sublime (the faint sound of Mozart as you take your last breath) to the ridiculous (lessons on how to close the sagging jaw of a corpse), Tisdale leads the reader through the peaks and troughs of death with a calm, wise and humorous hand. More than a how-to manual or a spiritual bible, this is a graceful compilation of honest and intimate anecdotes based on the deaths Tisdale has witnessed in her work and life, as well as stories from cultures, traditions and literature around the world. Tisdale explores all the heartbreaking, beautiful, terrifying, confusing, absurd and even joyful experiences that accompany the work of dying, including: A good death: What does it mean to die 'a good death'? Can there be more than one kind? What can I do to make my death, or the deaths of my loved ones, good? Communication: What to say and not to say, what to ask and when, from the dying, loved ones, doctors and more. Last months, weeks, days and hours: What you might expect, physically and emotionally, including the limitations, freedoms, pains and joys of this unique time. Bodies: What happens to a body after death? What options are available to me after my death, and how do I choose - and make sure my wishes are followed? Grief: 'Grief is a story that must be told, over and over. . . Grief is the breath after the last one.' Beautifully written and compulsively readable, Advice for the Dying offers the resources and reassurance that we all need for planning the ends of our lives. It is essential reading for all of us.